Take Off Your Sunglasses and Make a Connection
Wearing sunglasses is so foreign to me now. I can remember I used to not leave the house without a pair but now I never wear them. I understand they are functional especially when driving, at the beach or hanging at the pool but when I talk with people I like to make eye contact, I enjoy looking into the other persons eyes and having a connection.
What’s interesting is this wasn’t a conscious decision not to wear sunglasses, it just happened. I guess I noticed I had stopped wearing them when I noticed so many other people wearing them and I made the observation that I would get a little anxious or irritable when they wouldn’t take them off when speaking with me.
That being said, since I have started paying attention to this trend, I’ve also noticed more and more people taking their sunglasses off or putting them on their head when talking to me. It’s almost as though I demand to see their eyes without even saying a word.
Anyhow, this may be something we can all consider when we talk with one another. Take off the sun glasses and give the other person you’re with your full attention, make a connection with that person and see them for who they are.
Have you ever notice how a baby looks at another person in the eyes? We learn how to NOT LOOK into the eyes of another as we grow up and grow into our ego and develop neurosis. When we are young it’s quite comfortable and natural to make eye contact with another person.
They say the eyes are the gateway to a persons soul and to a certain degree I believe that to be true. Making eye contact with another person is a beautiful phenomenon especially when it’s comfortable and effortless. I’ve met so many people who can’t make eye contact to save their life and that’s okay. For me it’s an indicator as to how comfortable they are and an opportunity to somehow make them more comfortable being in my presence.
Practice Makes Perfect
The next time you are in the grocery store line buying your kale salad and quinoa bowl at Whole Foods, make an effort to make eye contact with that person and smile. It’s really not that hard and most of the time the person on the other end will meet you with a friendly smile as well, especially if you come to the Open Source Truck!
We need to make more authentic connections with people in our daily lives, we will only benefit from this practice. It’s so easy to walk down the sidewalk in Hollywood for a full mile and pass thousands of people and only a handful of people pass by and make eye contact.
On the complete opposite side of the spectrum you can go to a festival like Bhakti Fest for 3 or 4 days and every single person you pass by will acknowledge you with a greeting, eye contact or at the least a simple warm gesture.
Now don’t get me wrong I’m not saying wearing sunglasses is a bad thing but I think we can be more conscious of our shades when we are engaging in conversation or dialog with others.
We have the potential to all come to the realization that we are all one big family. Each person we pass by on a day to day basis, each person we casually converse with is in fact our extended family, we are all brothers and sisters.
So with that being said, take of them sunglasses and look me in the eyes. I want to see you in all your glory, beauty and divinity.
Peace and blessings,
-BE, love :-)